Bobo Ramblings.

"Suicide is a lot of things, but selfish isn’t one of them"

The pejorative, disrespectful, and ignorant statements that we are assaulted with concerning suicide angels are in abundance…and are disquieting to cope with on a daily basis.

You’ve heard them many times, statements about suicide being “a sin,” “a crime,” “an act of self-murder,” etc. Well, let me address one more ignorant statement – that suicide is a “selfish” act.

WRONG.

Suicide is a desperate act by someone who is in intense pain and wants their pain to stop. That is a HUMAN response to extreme pain, not a selfish one. And over 90 percent of the people who die by suicide have a mental illness at the time of their death, so they are not thinking clearly.

Saying that a person who had severe clinical depression, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, PTSD, or a similar illness was engaging in an act of selfishness when they died by suicide – even though their thought process, mood, and judgment were greatly affected by their mental illness – is not only inaccurate, but downright cruel, to both the suicide angel and the suicide survivors.

And those who use the word “selfish” are merely helping perpetuate the STIGMA associated with suicide.

A suicidal action that manifests from intense, excruciating, unbearable pain associated with a serious mental illness has nothing to do with selfishness. Period.

by Kevin Caruso

"A suicidal action that manifests from intense, excruciating, unbearable pain ASSOCIATED with a serious mental illness has nothing to do with selfishness. Period"
I 100%, brokenheartedly agree with this statement.


I would also like to point out another side though:
Even if the suicide is not associated with “serious mental illness” it is NOT selfish. People commit suicide for a variety of reasons- mental illness is just one of them.

Mental illness increases the risk of death by suicide, but multiple factors play a part in this tragic equation.
There are physical factors, family history factors, environmental factors and many, many more. It is unfair to the survivors of loved ones suicides to only “vindicate’ or “allow/forgive” suicide when accompanied by “serious mental illness”.

Suicide is a complex and tragic result of a host issues. NONE OF THEM ARE SELFISH.

*** It is important to note that the large majority of people with mental disorders or other suicide risk factors do not engage in suicidal behavior***

fiestacolours:

We did it, but only with the help of all our supporters. Thank you, everybody!

BIG thank you to all of our supporters! AFSP Louisville chapter raised over $56,000 for suicide prevention, research and education.

fiestacolours:

We did it, but only with the help of all our supporters. Thank you, everybody!

BIG thank you to all of our supporters!
AFSP Louisville chapter raised over $56,000 for suicide prevention, research and education.

$1.00 makes a difference.
$1.00 helps professionals reach out to those in need.
$1.00 can save a life

The Out of The Darkness Suicide Prevention walk is this weekend.
  My daughter and I are walking in memory of my brother Dennis and all the others who have lost their lives prematurely to suicide.
We are hoping to raise $300. Any support you could give is so
appreciated - $1.00 or 1 good thought, I’ll take it!

BIG THANKS to everyone who has supported us so far ♥ We couldn’t do it without you ♥
Click above to donate, learn more about suicide or find a walk near you!
You cannot cure someone else’s clinical depression. It is not just sadness which can be waved off with a few kind words. It goes far deeper than that.
1-800-273-TALK (8255)
 Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696 
 Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433 
 LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255 
 Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 
 Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743 
 Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438 
 Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673 
 Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272 
 Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000 
 Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253 
 NOTE: These are American numbers

1-800-273-TALK (8255)

  • Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696 
  • Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433 
  • LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255 
  • Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 
  • Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743 
  • Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438 
  • Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673 
  • Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272 
  • Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000 
  • Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253 
  • NOTE: These are American numbers
Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) if you need someone to talk to!
or call any of these other numbers:
 Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696 
 Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433 
 LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255 
 Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 
 Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743 
 Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438 
 Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673 
 Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272 
 Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000 
 Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253 
 NOTE: These are American numbers

Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) if you need someone to talk to!

or call any of these other numbers:

  • Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696 
  • Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433 
  • LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255 
  • Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 
  • Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743 
  • Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438 
  • Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673 
  • Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272 
  • Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000 
  • Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253 
  • NOTE: These are American numbers
If you are currently in Crisis and at risk of killing yourself - PLEASE dial 911 or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

Please join AFSP for a ”Day of Healing for Bereavement After Suicide” 
(in English, French and Spanish)
Saturday November 19, 2011
13th AnnualInternational Survivors of Suicide Day

(click the link to be connected)

If you are currently in Crisis and at risk of killing yourself - PLEASE dial 911 or call 1-800-273-TALK (8255)


Please join AFSP for a
 ”Day of Healing for Bereavement After Suicide”

(in English, French and Spanish)

Saturday November 19, 2011

13th Annual
International Survivors of Suicide Day

(click the link to be connected)

Suicide Fucking Sucks!

9 years ago today my brother and personal super hero “Plaid Man” committed suicide. A black hole of pain, anguish and confusion opened up for me and the rest of my family. He had struggled for years with depression, addiction and alcoholism. He was the proud father of 3 beautiful children, a good son, a fantastic brother, a caring and nurturing uncle and a supportive friend plus so much more. The world lost a precious, glorious gift that day and my heart and the collective heart of my family lost an irreplaceable piece of itself that day.

I am a better person for having had him in my life for the brief time he was here. I am a better mom, a better wife , a better daughter and a better friend for having loved him and for having the gift of his love for me. (Super Heroes have that effect on people)

We will always hold him in our hearts and souls, we will remember the good and fun times, as well as the dark and scarey times, we will celebrate his life and educate about his death.

Please, in honor of my brother, today as you go about your day to day interactions please stop and smile at someone, let someone merge in front of you during rush hour traffic, hold a door for someone, don’t give the finger to the person who cuts you off in traffic, ask someone how they are and really listen for the answer, pay for the person’s order behind you in the drive thru (if you can), let the people in your life know you love them, call your mom or dad or brother or sister and just say “Hi, I was thinking about you”……and if you are so inclined, please send a hope or a prayer or a vibe or an intention (whatever you do) of love, peace and healing out to my brother Dennis Robert Greene and all the victims of suicide that have fallen to this horrendous disease.

If you are suicidal PLEASE call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) - there are people who care and want to help….I CARE about YOU - Please call, if not for yourself, then call for me and my brother.

Thank you - Peace, Love and Healing

I love you Plaid Man, I miss you everyday of my life -  you will forever be Dar Dar Dar!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a7ZcvNWhgeY  - this is for you Dar Dar Dar <3

let&#8217;s all try to do this today and everyday!

let’s all try to do this today and everyday!