Resources for Male Survivors
I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with:
Thanks everyone!
You need to read the full article because it is perfect and will make you cry, but here is a good introduction:Even kids know that nobody messes with bikers. Bikers look big, and strong, and mean, both in real life and in how they are portrayed on television and in films. They are easy riders, sons of anarchy, not afraid of anything. And they take care of their own.
A child who has been abused by someone bigger and stronger knows too well what it feels like to be small and vulnerable. BACA shifts that balance by putting even bigger and stronger people - and more of them - on the child’s side.
And if those even-bigger and stronger people are scary-looking too, perhaps with flaming-skull tattoos, chains on their belts and scars of questionable origin, so much the better.
“The biker image is what makes this work,” says Rembrandt, 54, who is tall and wiry strong. “Golfers against child abuse does not have the same feel. The pink alligator shirt and golf shoes standing in the driveway doesn’t do the same thing.”
(No offense to golfers. Some bikers golf, too.)
What Rembrandt knows is that a biker’s power and intimidating image can even the playing field for a little kid who has been hurt. If the man who hurt this little girl calls or drives by, or even if she is just scared, another nightmare, the bikers will ride over and stand guard all night.
If she is afraid to go to school, they will take her and watch until she’s safely inside.
And if she has to testify against her abuser in court, they will go, too, walking with her to the witness stand and taking over the first row of seats. Pipes will tell her, “Look at us, not him.” And when she’s done, they will circle her again and walk her out.
“When we tell a child they don’t have to be afraid, they believe us,” Pipes says. “When we tell them we will be there for them, they believe us.”
Always reblog. You never know who needs it
You can also go to https://www.imalive.org/ for online 24 hour a day chat with trained professionals who can help you through this. Please call or chat now - I care about YOU!
Just a friendly reminder that rape is not a joke, so dont make light of it or laugh at it. Sexual abuse is real, and happens all the time, Im not the only one that knows it. Survivors need places to feel safe and people to trust. If you are lucky enough to have never been on the receiving end of sexual violence (yes, count yourself lucky, the statistics are very high) then it is hard for you to understand exactly what survivors expirence, but you can listen. And when you are tired of seeing it on the news or hearing about it from friends or the paper, think about the people who cant just change the subject and move on because it is a life halting event. It cant be unhead or unseen or forgotten. It is not just an upsetting moment in the afternoon, it is lots of people’s reality 24 hours a day. Be compassionate. Be thoughtful. Be quiet. You could change their world.
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| — | A letter I wrote to the general public. (via fiestacolours) |
1-800-273-8255 Please call
They can help you find your Hope.
or you can call any of the numbers listed below.
If you are not in the United States PLEASE do a google search in your area for a help line number.
There are people ALL OVER THE WORLD that care about YOU and can help you!
- Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696
- Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433
- LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255
- Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386
- Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743
- Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438
- Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673
- Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272
- Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000
- Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253
- NOTE: These are American numbers
dont ever hesitate. reblog this.
Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696
Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433
LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255
Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386
Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743
Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438
Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673
Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272
Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000
Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253
NOTE: These are American numbers. Ill be making an international list as well. :)
FFS STOP IT! (***Trigger Warning - rape, rape culture***)
***Trigger Warning - rape, rape culture***
TERM CREATED FOR SHOCK VALUE MAKES INTERNET WAVES:
The term is “Birth Rape.”
The earliest usage of the phrase I can find appears to be nearly 8 years old.
In June of 2007 it was listed in Urban Dictionary.
I, however, am just now hearing it.
I find it sickening.
Please, do NOT get me wrong; it is deplorable that medical professionals may perform unneeded procedures against the will of a patient (regardless of that patient’s gender, or what the procedure may be).
However, the word “rape” should not be used in this manner. And for the record, I do mean USED. I feel that whomever coined the phrase did it very purposefully. They found something horrific (medical malpractice), and therefore USED the most horrific word they could find when describing it, only to ensure that the world would find it equally horrific.
Congratulations, you picked the right word for your purpose.
As I write this, I am struggling to come up with ANYTHING as equally horrid and vile as rape. Therein lies my problem with this “new” term; it dilutes what rape is, and the trauma that goes hand-in-hand with it. Anti-rape activist Sandy Brindley says: “Rape is so particularly traumatic and so meaningful in so many ways, that there’s something about using the word in other contexts that diminishes the reality of it, and the impact it has on women’s lives.”
She is right.
It is not a word to be USED to advance your own agenda and issues.
It is not a subject to be joked about.
It is not an act that should be watered down within society through creative wordplay.
It is a CRIME.
Again, to do so belittles what rape is, and belittles the hell that a survivor endures afterward. And, shame on you for doing so.
As a husband, a father, and a man, I find it deplorable.
Anyone who is willing to do such a thing, has never seen someone they love struggle through that darkness…a darkness from which not all escape.
To all the victims/survivors/prevailers of sexual abuse: I will not diminish what you have suffered/endured/overcome.
reblog for suicide prevention.
Please Call - I care about YOU!
you can call these numbers also:
- Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696
- Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433
- LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255
- Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386
- Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743
- Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438
- Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673
- Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272
- Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000
- Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253
- NOTE: These are American numbers
- If you are in crisis and/or need someone to talk to, PLEASE pick up the phone and make the call. I care about YOU
- Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696
- Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433
- LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255
- Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386
- Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743
- Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438
- Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673
- Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272
- Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000
- Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253
- NOTE: These are American numbers
